I happened to stumble into a great conversation on Clubhouse on Sunday morning! Arrgh, who else is addicted to damn Clubhouse!? It is like a drug. You know the second before you enter – the tunnel of doom you might be about to go down – prepare to commit to hours of connection and energy-drain if you are not careful!
Anyway, I took a deep breath and entered the tunnel of infinite possibilities and as I wandered through the hallways – of course looking for my friends and familiar faces – not really paying attention to the title of the rooms (that’s how I roll in life actually, people first then titles) I spotted a room that – initially – only vaguely caught my interest, of course, the universe always places me in exactly the right place for what I need.
Oh wait, look, my friend, branding and marketing consultant James in the salmon top. Yes he always has cool rooms. I hit enter.
The conversation was being curated by the incredible James. His ability to not only hold the energy of hundreds of people but to guide and navigate the conversation with humility and humor is truly a gift and a skill I have never seen demonstrated with such class and speed. I had no idea what I was in for.
People were speaking of their experiences and sharing the life hacks that they have learned that switched them from losers to winners. Well not quite, but you get the gist. People dropping life hack bombs like trust your gut, consistency, resilience – some incredible stories. And then it happened.
Now, just to set the story straight I am not a sports-watching kinda gal. I would rather play the damn thing than watch it. I had never really understood why men like it so much, that is until I started to study men obsessively for the last 6 years. Believe me, when I say I become obsessive with studying human behavior – every opportunity is a chance to learn. In fact, my hubby and I often ‘discuss’ his feeling of being a Guinea Pig. Bless, it can’t be easy living with me.
This whole thing about games, tactics, competition and scoring points is that they are deeply held drivers that are innate in men to succeed in providing or ‘bringing home the bacon’, so it makes sense that sport ticks so many of their carnal needs.
After some time of moderators and speakers sharing their thoughts, it is time for the main event which is a ‘Mid-Morning Masterclass’ keynote from a former international sports star and world cup winner. ‘Introducing the one the only Coach Gurthro’; everyone is going mad with excitement as James reads all his accolades. Still, no clue who this guy is, but James is a trusted source of information, so I go with it. Not really got anything else pressing on this Sunday (other than no kids at home – romantic Sunday morning with Hubby. He’s disappeared upstairs – he thinks I don’t know that he is on his iPad, Gents she knows.) I settle in, “let’s find out what I can learn about human psychology from this Rugby guy then”… I was listening at the same time as wondering how long I can get away with being on Clubhouse for!
Well, this guy is a world champion Rugby player and now an expert coach – he starts to speak! The first thing; ‘rugby is a hooligans game played by gentlemen, football is a gentleman’s game played by hooligans.’ Ok so now he has caught my attention.
As someone who works to optimise the performance of top-flight executives and hugely successful CEOs, anywhere I hear the term gentlemen and I am all ears.
The first thing that struck me is that this guy is an international award-winning athlete and you would have never have guessed it.
His humility as he talks of his journey.
His love for his mother – referring to himself as a Mummy’s boy.
His biggest value being family, but how he learnt that the hard way, along the way.
During his keynote he used his journey through rugby to really demonstrate his core values; core pillars he believes that all men should live by.
I will come to what they were later.
During this article, I will attempt to gift some of the amazing quotes and concepts that Coach G empowered me with on this non-coincidental meeting.
The first was when spoke of one of the powerful questions that he uses for himself and to coach others when making decisions in life. The use of powerful questions – a simple but very effective strategy – how often are we aware of the questions that run in our subconscious mind? ‘Why is she behaving like that?’ Or ‘ why does she drive me mad?’