The Dimple Blog
50% of Married Women feel lonely in their marriage
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin “Being in a lonely marriage doesn’t mean you’re physically excluding your partner from your life, but you’re emotionally excluding them from your thoughts.” Carol Bruess, Relationship Expert This is more common than you think. In this blog, I am going to walk you through the symptoms, why it happens and what three things you can do to combat this problem. I know it feels like you are alone, but I hope this article gives you hope. I write this article because for two decades in my marriage, I felt this and…
Women are abusing men and they don’t even know it!
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Women don’t understand how they abuse men. I know this is going to stir up some shit and trigger many women. I know that this is not the common opinion among women. But what I am about to say is in service of women and men. See I am all about equal rights for both and I believe for too long the pendulum has been swinging towards women. Growing up where domestic violence was commonplace, I get it – first hand. When your first childhood memory is of your mum’s blood…
The number 1 thing women are doing that is crushing their men
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This blog will change your relationship with all men forever. It is not for women who want to blame men for all their problems. If that’s you stop reading. This is for women who desperately desire a happy, loving and connected relationship. If that’s you keep reading. Every single woman I interact with is destroying their men with their words and they don’t even know it! Before we start I want you to understand that this blog is written in service of women and men. It will trigger many of you…
I used to think it was impossible to get him to look at me the way he did when we were dating
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin I believed that this is what marriage is like after decades. I would tell myself, ‘you made your bed now lie in it or get out! But stop moaning and threatening because it is getting boring. And you don’t mean it anyhow.’ Well, here is what I want you to know… Everything changed for me when I decided that I could magnetise my man. I was worth my happiness and love, and I want more. I deserve more. I desire more. I am amazing. I just got to figure out a…
Two decades of nagging, he still didn’t give me what I wanted.
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Two decades of trying to get him to see me and listen to me. I mean, listen. You know how you feel it and feel so connected, and he still didn’t. I had tried everything. Speaking directly Asking for what I want Screaming Shouting Throwing plates Silent treatment Withholding affection and sex. The lot! And he still chose work over the family and me. It was like nothing else mattered. My whole world could be crumbling, and he wouldn’t even notice! That was my life. I felt like I had two choices…
Do not mix up pleasing with kindness
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin A recent article by Gary Vee on LinkedIn talked about being kind and competitive and it got me thinking. There were many responses saying it was wrong and you have to be ‘unkind’ to win and that there was nothing wrong with that. Well here is what I believe the problem is with this. It’s not the words but how we in today’s society are defining the word ‘kind’ and the meaning we are putting on the outcome. What I have found working with many men and women over the…
No.1 problem in modern-day relationships
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin The number 1 problem in modern-day relationships is lack of communication. ‘He is not listening.’ ‘She completely disconnects.’ ‘All I want is to feel heard and seen by him.’ ‘All I want is peace and for her to be happy.’ Sound familiar? I am going to help you not only understand why this is familiar and that you are not alone in feeling all of the above in your marriage/relationship. I will also reveal both the male and female perspectives to help you understand both sides of the story, because this…
Power or Pain? What’s Your Flavour?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin We hear of people, including myself, addicted to pain to grow. Right? No pain, no gain. Test after test after test. It’s exhausting, especially in relationships. When you are in your third decade of a relationship like I am, you start to wonder is it worth the pain? My hubby and I were talking about this last night. Our marriage has been one of the most volatile, challenging and expansive experiences of our lives. What I am about to share hasn’t been shared before, is profoundly personal and makes me feel…
Why do good men leave happy relationships?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This blog will unpack why men leave healthy relationships and continually self-sabotage. We will also cover how to experience a relationship without feeling trapped. This blog is for you if you are that person who gets cold feet when the relationship is going well, and you start to find fault in everything! I have recently coached some men who have had many broken relationships or marriages, and the one pattern I have noticed with all these men is that the lack of commitment is just the symptom. The problem is not…
Women don’t say what they mean, they feel what they mean
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This blog is for all the men who don’t understand why women don’t just speak directly and ask for what they want. I aim to simplify the complexities of the female communication system to help you understand why we don’t say what we mean. While reading this, I want you to breathe and just calm the inner child screaming – this is not fair and makes no sense and allow the king within you to rise and hear this message. Here we go – remember to breathe. ‘I am so confused’…
Menopause
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Omg that hot flush I can feel it coming on shit the bed is burning me and now my hubby is just too close. I can’t breathe! This bloody sexy night! The fabric is awful. It is sticking to me. I wish I was young and sexy again. Where is that button for the fan! Oh, there it is thank god! Omg, it’s freezing. Where is the duvet! I wonder if he still fancies me with this huge roll of fat around my belly! Where the hell did it come from?…
Love Is Not Logical
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Love is not logical, yet we make rules to fit it in a square box. When he does this, you do this. When he doesn’t do that, you do this. A logical solution to an illogical problem. Think about it! How many times have you done something in the name of love that made no sense? I remember my hubby when we were dating, and I lived in Edinburgh driving to me (5 hours) in the snow at 11 pm to see me on a Friday night and then leaving at…
Why Does She Throw Tantrums
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This blog is for all men who want to learn how to be her hero, not hitman when she is throwing those tantrums (you know the ones I mean.) It is also for all the women that are exhausted with throwing them. So, if you want to understand why we do it and how to fix it then this is the blog for you! I am writing this blog because I confess I was a serious tantrum thrower. I would sulk and scream and have even been known to throw things,…
Women Who Trap and Manipulate Men
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This blog was written because I realised that I had been unconsciously doing this for years. I had been taught by society that it is normal to manipulate men and to talk of men like they are idiots. In fact, I am so ashamed to admit when my daughter was 5 and she asked what does daddy do? I would reply, ‘he is a layabout!’ Ouch! This was because I didn’t understand what he was doing, not that he was working all hours to find a way to make money to…
You Have The Money, You Have The Success But What Is Next?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin If this question has been plaguing you recently, then this is the article for you. It’s the road map to what’s next. It’s not for the faint-hearted nor is it what you think. In fact far from it. Let me first explain why you are asking this question at this stage in your life. Well let’s think, you are a man who has worked all his life, hard! I mean really hard. Most likely you have come from humble beginnings which has been the driving force to getting you where you…
Why CEO’s Never Learn The Lesson In Relationships
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin In this article, I am going to walk you through why CEOs or successful entrepreneurs keep making the same mistakes over and over again in relationships. Who am I talking to? You know who you are, the repeat offenders. Married 2-3 times or have had 2 or 3 long-term relationships and they always end an absolute mess! You vow you would never ever go there again and then sure enough a few years later you are back there. In fact, sometimes you even go back to the same woman and/or wife!…
Living With The Beast That Is An ‘Entrepreneur’
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin In this article, I am going to discuss the BEAST known as ‘The Entrepreneur’. This Beast is so unique to any other man. I actually only discovered this when I realised that my man was very different from my friend’s husbands who weren’t entrepreneurial. I want you to know there is no judgment here. There is no wrong or right, just facts. My friends who were married to men who worked for others didn’t have the same traits, which I will discuss later. The characters of the beast. Slowly, as you…
Why Men Lack Confidence With Powerful Women
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin I was moderating a clubhouse room a couple of weeks ago on ‘conscious confidence’ and it became very apparent that lack of confidence is not just a female thing. In fact, when I look back over the decades of coaching men I realise that their confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth have taken a hammering over the years. Now, you may say this is no different to women and you would be correct. The only difference here is that men are not taught or encouraged to deal with it on a daily basis….
The Formula I Used to Manifest Dr. Joe Dispenza and YOU Can Use To MANIFEST LOVE and MONEY?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This article will not only explain how to manifest but also what it is and the power of being the creator of your life not in effect. This is for you if you believe you decide on how your life is, you decide whether you are rich or poor, successful or not. I know what you are thinking, ‘yes Dimple.’ I do decide exactly that in certain areas of my life like my businesses or my work life but, it doesn’t seem to work in other areas like love, family, or…
Why Is It That Women Speak Over 20,000 Words A Day But Still Don’t Feel Heard By Their Man?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Did you know that on average according to Louann Brizendine, founder and director of the University of California, San Francisco’s Women’s Mood and Hormone Clinic and published ‘The Female Brain’, states that women speak 20,000 words a day compared to men, who only speak 7,000. So, why is it that men/ husbands on a daily basis hear ‘you are not listening?’ Or ‘you are not hearing me?’ The reason I want to address this in this article today is because in my opinion, it is the most frequently argued question couples…
Why Men Lose Themselves In Long Term Relationships
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Warning: This article is going to trigger the hell out of a lot of you. I don’t apologize for this, why? Because I know that it is in discomfort that we grow. I am actually grateful if you are one of the people that gets triggered and here is why. If the information I am about to deliver triggers you, it means you have sat in comfort for so long that it is painful. You have done the ‘right’ thing by everyone else for so long that you are starting to…
Do I Fix The Problem Or Let It Go?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin This is a question I get asked literally daily both by my clients and from myself so I thought it’s time to write about it. Within this article, I am going to jump right in as it needs to be discussed from the inside out. The meaty stuff first for it to land. This topic is a hot one not because the action is complex but because the fear of getting it wrong and the consequences are huge. And it’s this that causes the confusion. So let’s look at when this…
10 Steps On How To Make The Wife Happy For CEO’s/Entrepreneurs
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin These steps are for male entrepreneurs and successful CEOs who have struggled to keep their women happy once they get into long-term relationships and marriages. There is still love there but communication and connection is poor. If you want to learn how to reconnect, feel respected, and be seen by your women then follow these steps and I guarantee things in your marriage will do a 360! Are you ready? You must do everything in this list and not delegate or automate it. Your effort and consistency is the most powerful…
Why Do The Top CEO’s Lie To Their Wife’s?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Warning! This article is going to trigger you. If you can’t take it, you need to learn why not and what you must do to get over it. Yep, this is the article for you! Hardcore, straight-talking facts. It is going to hit some home truths. I have spent weeks nurturing you and now it is time to take the velvet glove off to reveal the iron fist. It is time to tell you what you need to hear not what you want. The question is: Are you man enough to…
The 1 Problem That All Successful Entrepreneurs Face
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin The number 1 solution that is the game-changer for all my multimillionaire clients. It’s the gift that changes everything, the piece of the puzzle that truly is the last piece. The problem that keeps them awake. The thing that gets in their heads and takes up sooo much energy. It’s exhausting! Before I tell you what it is… Let me explain the result of not having it. The evidence you are experiencing all the time creating so much disappointment and anger in your life right now! People will not follow your…
The Secret To Finding ‘The One’
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin The perfect match is available to all. And in fact, you have probably experienced the one for you many times over. I know what you are thinking how is that possible? I thought the whole idea is that there is only one ‘the one’ hence the term ‘ one’. Well before I go into that let me define ‘the one’ and how we attract them. As animals, we will instinctively draw in the opposite energy we are being at that moment in time. So if we are looking desperately then we…
The 3 Keys to Millionaire Wealth
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin In this article, I am going to explain the phenomenon of what can happen when you don’t celebrate your success. When you don’t feel like you ever achieve anything. It’s the same reason a multimillion client of mine who sold his company for 8 figures to one of the top 3 social media platforms after 18 months didn’t feel successful! Let me paint the picture for you… This man had all the private jets, the cars, the home and still didn’t feel successful. It’s the same reason I didn’t notice that…
Only The Top 1% of Successful Men Do This!
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin What I am about to reveal is not for everyone. In fact, it is actually – as the title suggests – only for the elite top 1%. By the way, I am not trying to lure you into reading this article, nor am I wanting to waste your time. So if at this point you are bored, then stop reading. I am so ok with that because, with so much respect, if the content doesn’t engage you then it is not for you. It’s for those who want to be successful…
Power Or Pain? What’s Your Flavour?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin We hear of people, including myself, addicted to pain in order to grow. Right? No pain no gain – how many times have we said that! Test after test after test. It’s exhausting, especially in relationships. When you are in your third decade of a relationship like I am, you start to wonder is it worth the pain? My hubby and I were talking about this last night. Our marriage has been one of the most volatile, challenging and expansive experiences of our lives. What I am about to share hasn’t…
What I Learnt From a Great Male Role Model Coach G!
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin I happened to stumble into a great conversation on Clubhouse on Sunday morning! Arrgh, who else is addicted to damn Clubhouse!? It is like a drug. You know the second before you enter – the tunnel of doom you might be about to go down – prepare to commit to hours of connection and energy-drain if you are not careful! Anyway, I took a deep breath and entered the tunnel of infinite possibilities and as I wandered through the hallways – of course looking for my friends and familiar faces –…
The Real Reason Why Bill And Melinda Gates Are Divorcing
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin It is with great sadness this week that we hear of another power couple Bill and Melinda Gates divorcing after 27 years of marriage. One could say, having been through the painstaking growth season of their marriage, to come to the time when they should be reaping the fruits of their labour, why would they quit now? After almost 3 decades together surely they know each other well enough to navigate the sometimes choppy waters of a relationship!? Well, actually, the real reason for this despondent outcome has a lot to…
Why Women Don’t Say What We Mean?
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin In this article, I aim to introduce the complexities of the female communication system, to help you understand why we don’t say what we mean. While reading this, I want you to breathe and just calm the inner boy that is screaming “this is not fair, this makes no sense” and allow the king within you to rise in order to hear this message. Here we go; remember to breathe. ‘I am so confused’ is something I hear my executive CEO clients tell me all the time. “She said she wanted…
Why Relationship Challenges reduced Elon Musk and Tony Robbins’ Net Worth.
Share on facebook Share on twitter Share on linkedin Ok, so let’s start with a question… Would you consider Elon Musk and Tony Robbins to be extraordinarily successful businessmen? “Elon Musk Dreaming of a Brighter Future” by jurvetson is licensed with CC BY 2.0. To view a copy of this license, visit https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/ They have a net worth of $167 Billion and $600 Million respectively, so I would say – if we are measuring success with money – then the answer is a massive YES. We can assume that they know how to make money and run super successful businesses….
Why CEO’s Don’t Lead In Their Relationships?
If you are reading this it is highly likely you have failed a few times in your relationships. Maybe you’ve even been divorced once or twice and you are finding yourself asking “how is it that I can nail building a successful business – and all the complexity of relationships that this requires – but not in love?”
